What matters is not our birth, but what we become. An individual’s true significance lies in their perspective, decisions, and achievements, not just in their traits or circumstances at birth. Similarly, being a man is a matter of birth, but being a gentleman is a matter of lifestyle choices. A gentleman is the product of the choices that he makes. Below are some of the traits of a gentleman that sets him apart from a man:
1. Personal code of conduct
A gentleman adheres to a personal code of conduct, a set of principles he has established for himself. While a man may follow societal laws, a gentleman not only respects legal norms but also shows refined manners and knows how to handle himself well in different situations.
2. Respect and integrity
A gentleman prioritizes treating others with respect and upholding integrity in every interaction. While a man protects his own dignity, a true gentleman goes further by preserving not only his own dignity but also that of others. This reflects the gentleman’s commitment to a lifestyle of genuine respect and kindness.
3. Chivalry
A gentleman, following the ideals of chivalry, believes in showing respect and kindness to everyone. Some men are polite mainly to those they think are important, but a gentleman goes further. He respects not just superiors but also strangers, those seen as less important, and even those who may not benefit him in any way. Additionally, a real gentleman believes in being honorable and helping those who require protection and assistance.
4. Loyalty
A gentleman stays loyal to those he loves. While some may waver in tough times, a true gentleman remains steadfast, like a compass always pointing north.
5. Discipline
A gentleman values discipline in life, staying focused on his goals. While some may give in to temptations, a gentleman keeps them under control, reflecting the disciplined nature that defines his lifestyle.
6. Honesty
Some men may say what suits them, but a true gentleman speaks honestly, never giving false hopes or promises. Being deceitful to get something isn’t a trait of a gentleman.
7. Righteousness
A man does what is easy or seeks to impress others, but a gentleman does what is right. While some may employ trickery and deceit for personal gain, a gentleman does not let himself be swayed by such negative traits.
8. Introspection
While some men focus on criticizing others, a gentleman shows his commitment to self-reflection, personal growth, and behaving ethically. While some may avoid taking responsibility for their mistakes, a gentleman reflects on them, admits when he needs to apologize, and works to make things right.
9. Gratitude
Gratitude is a guiding virtue for a gentleman. He openly acknowledges and appreciates the kindness, support, and positive contributions of others, even their attempts. While some may not take help seriously, a gentleman always acknowledges and appreciates the kindness he receives. He understands that kindness is a choice, not an obligation.
10. Stoicism
A gentleman lives with resilience, staying calm and rational during challenges. Stoicism shapes his perspective, helping him endure difficulties gracefully and concentrate on what he can control, all while keeping inner peace. While some may be left broken by tough situations and lose direction, a gentleman shows strength, overcoming challenges and emerging even stronger.
In the grand scheme, it boils down to choices. A gentleman leaves his mark upon those around him when a man tries hard to make one. While common men express philosophy, gentlemen personify it.
